10 ways to spend your 10 minutes of me time
Let’s face it, getting me time as a mom is never a top priority, there’s just too much to do during in the day, from kids to the house, to work. How are you supposed to fit in any time just for you?
Recent studies have shown that new moms get 17 minutes of me-time every day. 17 minutes! And that’s not 17 minutes of massages and breakfasts in bed. No. That 17 minutes is added up in one or two minute blocks in the moments when you get to sit down without anyone asking you for something. (Let’s be honest here, most of those minutes are probably when you’re in the loo, sometimes it’s the only alone time we get.)
But me time is important. No hang on, it’s not important. It’s vital. You cannot look after everyone else’s health and happiness if you don’t first look after your own. A study into women’s lives has uncovered that although women’s circumstances have mostly improved, their happiness levels have declined. This is due to the fact that many women are trying to manage more and more in their daily lives; to be a wife, a mother, a housekeeper, a chef, a social secretary and succeed in a career, all at the same time. Is it any wonder that we struggle to get any time to ourselves?
But when we do manage to get a moment to ourselves, when we carve out a few of those 17 precious minutes, what do we do? We can’t waste them. We need to be ready to use them wisely. We need to make them count.
Here’s our top 10 ways to make the most of your 10 minutes of me-time.
1. Stretch it out
Get up and give yourself a good stretch, whether it’s a spot of yoga or simply some toe touching, it will loosen you up and enliven your body. If you don’t want to actively stretch, then do a few minutes of deep breathing, it will centre your thoughts and get your lungs moving.
2. Face Mask
Treat yourself to an at-home spa treatment with a 10-minute face mask. Don’t have a shop-bought mask handy? Grab some honey. Two teaspoons of honey smeared onto your face can do wonders, it’s a natural moisturiser, cleanser and it’s anti-bacterial, so it’s great for your pores. Yes, it might be a bit sticky, but a warm cloth will easily take it off.
“I wish I was a baby, so I could take a nap and everyone would be proud of me.” Let’s face it, you are a mom, therefore you are not getting enough sleep. A quick 40 winks will probably do you the world of good. So, close your eyes and relax. You don’t have to actually sleep, you just need to shut down and let yourself have a quick recharge.
These days showers are usually taken at speed while the baby naps or Daddy minds them. It’s rarely a long luxurious soak. When you get out it’s a quick dry and get dressed. So if you have some time, slather on some moisturiser and give your skin a treat. If you don’t have any fancy creams to hand grab the baby oil. It will do just as good a job.
5. Paint your nails
Yes, they’ll be chipped in no time, but they’ll look lovely for the first day and even the action of slowly painting them will help you relax and focus on yourself.
When was the last time you had a hot cup of tea or coffee? When you weren’t interrupted halfway through? Make yourself a nice cup of something warm, sit down and enjoy it. Go on have a biscuit while you’re there. Focus on the taste and the feeling and savour it without distractions.
One of the joys of having a baby is that your once luscious, thick, shiny hair, turns brittle, dry and it even falls out! So, if you have a few minutes, give your poor hair some love. Put on a hair mask or a treatment and let it soak in. If you don’t have any hair treatments at home, normal conditioner left in for a few hours can work wonders too.
Read a few pages of a book or a magazine. Steer clear of politics or anything controversial, this is time for you to relax and focus on your own needs, don’t start worrying about what’s going on in the world. You don’t need the stress.
9. Watch it
Take a few minutes to watch some Instagram videos from someone inspirational or funny (Stacey Solomon is always good). If you are looking for something a little bit more informative, then have a scan through the Ted Talks site, there’s plenty of short but interesting videos available.
10. Colour therapy
Colouring-in can be a great way to centre your mind. There’s plenty of adult colouring books available, some with natural or fantasy themes and a few with decorated curse words, which not only help you with me time, they could also help to relieve any anger issues. Try and get your own ‘nice’ pencils or markers, so you’re not rooting through school bags for spare Twistables.
However you decide to spend your me-time, just remember that it needs to be for you. Don’t throw it away folding clothes or wiping the counters. Do something that you don’t get to do every day and enjoy it. Try and set the scene; light a nice candle, turn on some of your favourite music and give yourself a break. You deserve it.